Relationships

When we expect things, we are bound to be let down. When things start to be expected, the relationship becomes transactional, and it loses its meaning. This goes for romantic love, a special friendship, or a strong family bond. We must accept these relationships and appreciate them only partially as they arise. This allows us to live in the moment, be fully present as intended, and enjoy these bonds.

The most complex relationships will have been romantic ones. Romantic relationships bring out the most significant ‘hang-ups’ we have. This is especially the case when one wants to anticipate things because when you expect, you create. These hang-ups hold us back on our journey working with the Four Noble Truths and the Noble Eightfold Path. The expectations many set for romantic relationships destroy them before they even have a chance to ‘get off the ground.’ We often hope these relationships will complete us as we look for our ‘better half,’ yet we must be whole before we embark on such a journey with someone. That means you must do a lot of personal growth and self-discovery to learn. That doesn’t mean constantly jumping in and out of relationships and dating as much as possible. It means understanding who you are and knowing what makes you tick. That way, you are selecting people to date who hold your morals and goals. Never be desperate and compromise on your morals because you will regret this later during the relationship, too. Stick to what you want and your standards; it will be a successful endeavor.